Polygamous.com
Navigate non-monogamy with confidence
Evidence-based guidance for ethical non-monogamy - from opening your first relationship to managing a complex polycule. Handle jealousy, build compersion, and design structures that work for everyone involved.
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What you get
Everything Polygamous.com gives you
Jealousy & Compersion Workshop
Structured exercises to understand jealousy triggers, self-soothe, and gradually build compersion - the #1 challenge in ENM.
Relationship-Structure Assessment
Discover which structure fits you - polyamory, open, RA, polyfidelity - with an honest assessment of your needs, values, and attachment style.
Opening-Up Guide
A step-by-step framework for opening an existing relationship safely, avoiding the predictable mistakes that sink 60% of new attempts.
Metamour Navigator
Guidance for the relationships around your relationships - kitchen-table vs parallel polyamory, boundaries, and healthy metamour dynamics.
Agreements & Boundaries Builder
Craft clear, revisitable agreements on time, safer sex, disclosure, and hierarchy that protect everyone involved.
Go deeper
ENM Frameworks and Terminology
The core concepts Sage uses to guide ethical non-monogamy conversations.
Relationship Structures
- Polyamory — Multiple romantic or loving relationships at once, with the knowledge of everyone involved.
- Open Relationships — A primary partnership with agreed-upon outside romantic or sexual connections.
- Relationship Anarchy — Rejects a fixed hierarchy between relationships; each connection is defined on its own terms.
- Swinging — Recreational non-monogamy, typically couple-focused and sex-centered rather than romantic.
- Polyfidelity — A closed group of three or more partners, all committed exclusively to one another.
Jealousy and Compersion Toolkit
- Trigger Identification — Naming the specific moment or thought that sparks jealousy, before it escalates.
- Self-Soothing — Grounding techniques to manage the feeling in the moment without acting on it.
- Compersion — Feeling genuine joy at a partner's happiness with someone else - built gradually, not forced.
- Polysecure Framework — Jessica Fern's attachment-based approach to feeling secure across multiple relationships.
Opening a Relationship
- Exploration — Individually and together clarifying what you each want and fear from opening up.
- Negotiation and Agreements — Setting clear, revisitable terms on time, safer sex, and disclosure.
- First Steps — Taking gradual, low-stakes actions rather than diving in all at once.
- Ongoing Check-ins — Regularly revisiting agreements as feelings and circumstances change.
History and Terminology
- Polyamory vs Polygamy — Polyamory is consensual multi-partner dating; polygamy specifically means multiple legal marriages.
- Legal Status — Consensual ENM relationships are legal in most Western countries; concurrent legal marriage to more than one spouse is not.
- Historical Context — Multi-partner marriage has appeared across many cultures and eras; modern ENM is a distinct, secular movement.
Pricing
Simple plans that grow with you
Plus
$9/mo
- ✓Unlimited guidance conversations
- ✓Structure assessment
- ✓Jealousy toolkit
- ✓Agreements builder
Premium
$99/mo
- ✓Everything in Plus
- ✓Full opening-up program
- ✓Compersion development course
- ✓Metamour navigation coaching
- ✓Priority responses